So, you’ve removed the gloves that others have so lavishly bestowed on you for work you know was neither your best nor at least one step up from the status quo. You’ve challenged yourself to go further by changing your attitude, acquiring a new skill, trying something different, or getting input from others and hopefully you’ve regained a sense of satisfaction at embracing positive tension and seeing yourself edging closer to achieving your goal.
What else can derail your progress? Too much earth…
I am not kidding: Making mountains out of molehills has never, ever led to a positive outcome. Storms in teacups do not quench thirst. Much ado about nothing is exhausting, and blowing things out of proportion leads to a lot of hot air. Clear?
I am all for drama on stage, in informal conversation and by individuals given to more dramatic expressions. These are normally entertaining and celebrate diversity (apparently aiming a saucer at hubby’s head does not count).
Dramatising a mistake, disappointment or even failure is debilitating. Things do not always go the way we want them to. No big revelation there. Sometimes we unintentionally mess up.
This does not mean that mistakes must be swept under the carpet. They must be acknowledged, fixed and the reason for the mistake eliminated – and by this I am not referring to the perpetrator… Why did the mistake happen in the first place? Ignorance, misunderstanding, lack of skills, insufficient protocols?
Imagine a surgical team: Identify the problem; focus on the repair/remedy; take further preventative action and allow the ‘patient’ recovery time with occasional check-ups if required.
Dramatising in a team set-up occurs when the type and consequence of the mistake are dwarfed by the number of hours pontificating about it; by the eye-rolls of team members branding the erring individual with something akin to a scarlet letter; by management embellishing on the absurdity of the mistake at every conceivable opportunity; or by introducing a playground of hoops where one hoop would have sufficed to ensure no one ever again causes the well-oiled machine to do as much as squeak.
Time and productivity, not to mention morale, suffer and everyone is fearful of making mistakes – a killer to innovative thought.
Dramatising in a personal set-up is equally destructive and is wrapped in thoughts or declarations such as, “I can never do anything right”; “I will never get over this”; “I cannot show my face in public again”. Just throw in a dramatic shoulder heave and stare forlornly into the distance as you ponder your bleak future and you’re about ready for the stage! Everything passes. Today’s humiliation (or success for that matter) is tomorrow’s history lesson.
See the problem or mistake for what it was – don’t take away from it and don’t add to it. Deal with it and move on; you have a goal to achieve.